• Neeka@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    Renegotiating consent when spaced and horny.

    We planned and negotiated for a session, strictly no genital involvement agreed. When shit got intense, hot and heavy, they were very very angry with me not penising them.

    Good discussions on informed enthusiastic consent were had.

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      Yep, been there. I go to her place, first time we ever met. Within a few minutes she makes me promise I will not be penising her. I agree because I’m only a part time dbag, not 100% a dick.

      The night gets interesting, we both drink way more than we should on a first meet, lots of handsy action and everything but the agreed upon limits of consent.

      “Why won’t you?”
      “You made me promise I wouldn’t.”
      “Please?”
      “No, but I’ll do anything else you’d like.”
      “Whhhhyyyyyy”

      This went on for hours. Never saw her again because she was apparently so upset I kept my promise, she didn’t want to see me again. It’s a weird sometimes-regret where I know I did exactly what I should have done, but had I not we both would have had more fun and maybe have had a repeat encounter.

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        Regarding your regret, I know it’s not much, but this internet stranger is proud of you for sticking to your promise.

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          1 year ago

          Thanks, truly appreciate that. I know it can be difficult in the heat of the moment to stick to a promise like that, and I could easily have had a moment of weakness.

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      You: Sorry, Sir. As per our contract dated 14th August, 2023, paragraph 3, section 2 (b) and I quote “…no Penising, not even the tip, shall be allowed after 19.99 minutes of vigorous sex acts”. The time is now 19.995 minutes. I must advise you of the penalty clauses as listed in the Appendices I, II and IV should you persist in breaking our prior agreement. Good day, Sir!

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      1 year ago

      I had a parallel experience, renegotiating consent using their dominant position to define boundaries.

      Nope nope nope, not how this is supposed to work.