The sad one is going through deep depression, and thinks nothing matters anymore. Nobody waits them at home, and after another lonely night of drinking alone they kill themself around 2am by overdosing on sleeping pills. Their corpse is found a month later when the neighbors complain about the smell. Nobody attends the funeral.

The happy one is going through deep depression, and has passed the threshold of holding onto anything. They’ve put their things in order, cleaned their house and browser history, and given away tons of stuff so nobody has to sort through them. They’re now on their way to jump of a cliff they have chosen for the perfect view. Their suicide ends up in the news cycle and everyone says how terrible, until it is forgotten before the next week.

I was a teen when I found the word asexual and knew what was “wrong” with me. I had known way before though, I just didn’t have a word for it. On the other hand I was over twenty when I finally figured I was trans too. In hindsight the signs were already there when I was six years old or so, it just wasn’t a thing people understood back then

The worst ones I’ve encountered are the ones where you’re supposed to choose pictures with right amount of rocks stacked on them. It’s just impossible, the generated images are too shitty to see the “rocks”, there’s so many pictures even one round takes ages, and on top of it you have to start over again if you make a single mistake - which it will tell you after you’ve done the full round. I once had to do like five rounds of those since I just couldn’t get it right. Now I just close the fucking sites if I see the damn rock piles again, nothing’s worth it, it’s just abuse at this point

Mine’s “never run after a bus”. It’s pointless; you won’t make it, just wait for the next one. Things go shitty because of that? Well, that’s life, just deal with it. Running after things just makes you out of breath and desperate instead of learning planning and patience

I switched to Waterfox immediately after they released the first news. Having to disable the AI stuff in about:config was already annoying enough, so I have no trust in whatever they claim anymore.

There’s plenty of positive advice here, so I’ll write some negative things. If you feel like the therapy is not working for you, as people have pointed out, change therapists. Go through multiple ones, don’t give up!

The reality still is though, that therapy isn’t a magical cure that fixes everything. Depending of your problems, it might not work no matter how many therapists you go through, no matter how many years of therapy you do. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try, no - absolutely do try. It also doesn’t mean the problem is you, sometimes things just don’t go how people say they should.

Therapy has not worked for me; it can’t fix my shitty physical health, and it can’t fix how unfit to society I am because of my autism. My friend did ten years of therapy, but still killed themselves. There’s no cure for everything, not everyone gets a happy ending. But maybe you do; you never know unless you try! That trying is a huge step you can be proud of taking, no matter what.

here will be pain, but it will be good for you

I’ll just add that it being painful in itself is not a sign it is working. Make sure you feel safe with the therapist you choose

I hate public places because people just smell so bad. You should bathe more and clog the damn pores, you all reek

Edit// And yes I’m autistic and hyper sensitive to smells Edit2// oh yeah and wash your teeth and mouths as well, goddamn

“Deodorant” itself, it’s just perfumes to mask the smell for a bit. What you want to prevent sweating is antiperspirant

Thus the “for now”

Hell no. For now just gonna switch to some firefox fork that won’t include the AI.

Programs are like socks, once they get dirty, you change them. Do these people really not understand how this stuff works? Even giants can fall when enough people switch to other options

Yeah, it’s not really complicated. The worst version is if someone tells your deadname to others to out you as trans, which makes it impossible for you to control the information. And if you’re known there’s always the risk of physical violence, especially if you’re transwoman and living in less liberal places

It’s basically because the name you used to have doesn’t really matter, it tells nothing about who you are. Some ask it out of curiosity, which is invasive even if it’s innocent (often that name reminds you about things you’d rather not remember), but some ask it just so they can use it to misgender you, and you can basically never know for sure is it malicious or not. Even people you thought were your friends might use the name later to hurt you if they get angry or some shit. So the best course of action is to never reveal your deadname to new people you meet. It’s gone, it’s past, it doesn’t matter and nobody should care.

Even if you are cis-passing (nobody can tell you’re trans just by looking), being trans means you have to either hide parts of you, or you are kind of fighting a constant battle of people reacting to you being trans. Even if you’re in a position good enough for it to not be that malicious, it will wear you down eventually. You might think you’re strong enough, that you can casually talk about your past and the name you had, you can take it! You’re not a victim! And sure, maybe you can keep that up for couple years if you’re lucky, but it gets old fast, and it will wear you down. Telling your deadname is just giving more free ammo to people who are more likely to shoot at you than you’d like

Totally fair. I also have a gender neutral name these days, but since my parents thought names for both a girl and a boy before I was born I’d consider those my woman/man -names. But yeah the reality of being trans is that you can’t ever tell any other names, unless you’re lying for safety. It’s always weaponized

I’m trans so I would have to decline answering, as any other name than my current one would just be asked and used in attempts to hurt me. But I do know exactly what names I would have

It’s probably not the genre people here tend to enjoy, but if you are into homesteading and farm stuff, Gold Shaw Farm has been excellent for years now.

It can make it harder to estimate the age of a person (I say as a person that also struggles with faces). But yeah most people don’t do those estimations based on face only, especially if you’re faceblind. I don’t know anything about Brad Pitt though so no comment on that lmao

Never buy non-stick unless it’s labeled PFAS-free. PFAS, also called “forever chemicals”, are persistent organic pollutants which are a great way to fuck up the whole ecosystem

If the weight is a problem, you can always try carbon steel. It’s similar to cast iron in it’s use (seasoning and all that), but it is lighter.