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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I don’t really know d&d well, but I just looked up the spell and I think it says you can transform “any number of willing creatures”. So the DM could make an argument about whether insects had the intelligence to even qualify as being able to be “willing” for that.

    On the other hand, I am a big fan of Operation Dumbo Drop Multistrike




  • Do you know if you want to keep seeing them? If you do, or if you aren’t sure yet, I think you just need more info. They might have experience with a violent ex, and so they’re hyper-tuned to worry “what if this person I like suddenly becomes violent.” Talking about an ex would definitely be a trigger for a lot of violent people, so it makes sense she was worried about that topic specifically. Anyways, maybe sit them down and say something like:

    “Thanks for giving me a little time to process things, so I wouldn’t say something I didn’t mean. I was surprised when you said you were afraid I might become violent, as I’ve never been violent with another person, and I don’t think my behavior is even very aggressive.” (Assuming that’s true about you, which I can’t really know). “I want to know why you were worried about that possibility, and I don’t feel like you gave me a clear answer last time we spoke. That being said, I totally understand this might be a sensitive subject for you, so I don’t want to rush you if you’re not ready to talk about it. But I like you, and I want to get to know more about you, and it will be hard for me to feel comfortable continuing to see you if I don’t know what caused you to say what you did a couple days ago.”

    Or hey, maybe you aren’t the best judge of yourself. Maybe include something in there like “If you feel like I have raised my voice or acted aggressively sometimes, I would really like to know, as I’m not aware of behaving like that. I promise I will be calm and collected if you want to tell me something like that.”

    I dunno, or maybe ask ChatGPT, it can probably write up something pretty good.

    Oh yeah, but in summary, I think you are assuming her intentions were malicious due to your saying she’s gaslighting you, when I’m not really 100% sure that’s the case yet. I’d give her a chance to explain, but if y’all keep seeing each other, just keep an eye out for any further weirdness.








  • Ah sorry, I think I misread your previous comment as if you were saying you had to have words to think, maybe implying other people were not correct when they said they didn’t have words? And I was trying to say it was possible, but I see you weren’t actually trying to argue that now, so nvm!

    I also don’t think I’m a words person. Sometimes I’ll talk out loud to myself while I’m doing something, and I definitely CAN think my thoughts as words in my head, but yeah usually I just do stuff without it. I mean to some degree everyone does things without brain words, right? If you’re getting ready for bed, so you think “now I need to stand up, now I move my left foot, now my right, now I move my right arm to pick up the toothbrush”. Like, you have to take some actions without narrating them, right? We’re just like that, but more so 😄


  • Orange Charger bills landlords based on energy usage instead of the number of outlets installed. So far, the company has installed about 2,000 units nationwide.

    “You have no downside to install 50 outlets day one,” Johnson said. “We only charge when the device is used.”

    But it also says the chargers cost $600 or $750, plus more for installation. Do they charge for both? Either way, I guess it’s the apartment owner’s choice, but god damn I am sick of everyone trying to get a subscription or on-going payment out of me.