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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • There are degrees of monitoring. This is basically my approach:

    • no smartphone before 12yrs old
    • no computer, tablet, smartphone or similar in their bedroom before 16yrs old, specifically at night.
    • family link (android) installed, with tighter controls the younger they are. This is discussed and also explained as a measure to protect them
    • if they are under 16, we create social media accounts together and discuss what is appropriate, what can/should be public/private etc.

    That is basically it. A lot of it is being around, available and approachable. It’s not perfect, but it has several layers of protection, and is built around creating trust and teaching valuable media skills.

    If I had to pick one, I’d say the ‘no internet devices in bedrooms’ would be the most valuable one. Because of that, I know what games my kids play, they can deconnect at night, and it’s fairly easy to enforce.







  • Another ‘friend boss’ thing is also being completely blind to your own position of power. He thinks he can ‘chum around’ with anyone at the company, make ‘jokes’ about the quality of their work, etc. like he could with an equal. He doesn’t realize how scary that actually is, and thinks anyone who would say such a thing is just oversensitive. Validated by the fact that hardly anyone ever dares speaking up instead of just awkwardly smiling and nodding.





  • Yeah, but from those videos it’s unclear whether that’s an act or real. Iirc there have been Reddit AMAs about ‘what it’s like to work for LTT’ and the tone there was always ‘It’s intense’ and ‘His YouTube persona is not an act’ but never anything really damning. The ex-employees there seemed to respect him, but did see it as a place with a harsh work culture and little space for a personal/family life.

    I think the fast growth accelerated some bad tendencies in the culture, and now it’s all a complete mess that got away from them. The CEO change in hindsight seems quite ominous, now.



  • What I would expect:

    • Don’t start the meeting by apologizing for being ‘boring and corporate’ as that sends out the wrong message.
    • Don’t blame employees for bad company culture. A workplace where people are belittled, bullied, harassed, etc. doesn’t just spring into being, it emerges due to neglect of basic HR needs.
    • Information on how you’ll evaluate and change procedures, because they obviously aren’t working.
    • Some sort of acknowledgement of psychological harm that has been done by bullying, gossip, etc., instead of just describing it as ‘personal problems’.
    • Don’t emphasize your own stated powerlessness. If you’re the CEO, that’s a devastating message for employees. If they get the impression that you’re not in control, they will absolutely not feel safe.