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Cake day: July 18th, 2021
  • snek_boi@lemmy.mltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•For those with lower-back issues, what's been the best work-chair for you?
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    2 months ago

    Sure. I’ll tell you what I understand, but I’d suggest checking what I say against Girard’s videos themselves.

    Anyway, his approach involves supporting your lower back. In a way, it’s almost as if your chair’s back is exclusively there to support your lower back.

    Notice that, in this approach, your upper back is not supported by your chair. That means that you have to engage your core and back muscles to support your upper back and your shoulders and head. That is why sitting for long can get tiring and at some point is simply impossible.

    Depending on your chair, you might be able to easily lay back, almost as if your chair was a bed. This is fine if you are not typing or using your desk. But I think Girard generally favors the sitting up straight and using your muscles.

  • snek_boi@lemmy.mltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•For those with lower-back issues, what's been the best work-chair for you?
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    2 months ago

    I messed up my back years ago. Sometimes I work sitting down for hours. Here’s how I’ve managed:

    • Physical therapy and Gold Medal Bodies to learn how to move and strengthen what needs to be strong
    • Watching and following Olivier Girard videos. His approach requires naturally using certain muscles while sitting, so maybe this won’t work for everyone. His approach also means that breaks are a must. I cannot sit for too long. Every half-an-hour or so I get up and move.
    • Getting good enough chairs and desks. I followed Girard’s guide to buying chairs and desks. This means I can sometimes work for more than half-an-hour straight by lifting my desk so that I can work standing.

    Hope this helps! And best of luck with your back

  • snek_boi@lemmy.mltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's the real reason most countries aren't having children?
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    2 months ago

    THIS.

    Lots of other comments talk about economic hardship. Yes, that’s part of the story, but there are very wealthy people in very wealthy countries who don’t have children. And there also are very poor people in very poor countries who have lots of children.

    I guess the question I would ask is:

    • If economic hardship is your theory, why do very poor people in very poor countries have lots of children?

    So the story is not entirely about money. It’s also about the factors you mentioned.

  • snek_boi@lemmy.mltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Why does Lemmy.ML admire authoritarian regimes ?
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    2 months ago

    To see where we’re all standing, I agree that my comment doesn’t answer the question.

    Here’s my answer: I do not identify myself with the characterization of .ML as mindlessly supporting States that are not democratic. Instead, I (a member of .ml) fundamentally believe in the creation of human capabilities for humans to be free to choose how to live their life.

    Some of the ways we build capabilities in humans are well understood: clean water, access to preventive medicine, access to education, access to networks like cosmopolitan cities or the internet.

    I don’t assume the world is linear and teleological. Therefore, I don’t assume human development has to happen a certain, pre-specified, linear way. Instead, I assume the world is complex. Therefore, we need to constantly probe the world and ask “How do we get more capability-bolstering and less capability-undermining?”

    If you want to label me, I think complexity science-aware and human development proponent fits.

    As to making up what another person said, I’m not really following. Could you specify what you mean? The other person said they blocked my instance, and I played with that implication. I guess I missed something, but I can’t really see it.

  • snek_boi@lemmy.mltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•How to support a grieving person?English
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    2 months ago

    You hurt because you care. You care because you hurt.

    You care about your cat, about your partner, and about your relationship. This is important to recognize. It’s important to give this its proper space, not minimizing it but also not making it define your life.

    What I mean is that sometimes, our brain tells us things that are helpful and sometimes it tells us things that are unhelpful. Sometimes, our brain becomes a dictator. This dictator avoids pain at all costs. It looks at pain as something that needs to be solved.

    Here’s the thing: emotional pain cannot be solved in the same way that physical pain can sometimes be solved. We can fix broken bones. We can heal skin wounds. But we cannot magically solve emotional pain. Why? Because we hurt where we care.

    Here’s a way to look at emotional pain: would you want to be the kind of person that doesn’t feel pain when their loved ones die? I bet you wouldn’t. And that is human. It is a way of looking at emotional pain with dignity.

    Here’s another way of giving some dignity to the pain of losing someone: humans hurt when loved ones leave because we have a yearning to belong. This is not even a cultural thing or otherwise a learned thing. It is pre-verbal. Grab a baby and look at its eyes, and its brain will be flooded with endorphins. We are wired for connection. Most mammals are too. And some mammals have specifically evolved to live with us. An example of this is your cat: it comes from a lineage that has learned to live with people.

    So what can we do about this emotional pain? For one, being open to it and being aware of it. It is a part of your life and it is worth holding with dignity. You can look at this pain as if you were holding a delicate flower. What’s its shape? What’s its color? Its texture? Its inner consistency? Its power? This exercise helps with coming to terms with tough experiences. It helps us accept problems that can’t be solved.

    You can also choose to actively engage with your life in a way that you find meaningful. What kind of person do you want to be? What do you want to stand for? How would you like to approach life? This puts you in the driver’s seat. And you will feel your emotions pulling you aside. They will tell you that you have to stop driving, that you have to solve problems that can’t be solved. Your dictator will not like the pain. And yet you can listen to your dictator talk in the copilot seat and choose to drive.

    This is what grief sometimes looks like: emotions that come and sometimes overwhelm you. What I’m suggesting is that you can be open to them, be aware of them, and choose how you want to engage with life.

    If you do this, your partner will notice. There are wild studies that show that psychologically flexible people are able to make others around them more psychologically flexible. It’s been measured in the context of traumatic experiences like pediatric surgery and natural disasters: parents who are psychologically flexible are a safety net for their children, and those kids are less likely to be traumatized and more likely to be psychologically flexible later in life.

    What I’m saying is that you can model psychological flexibility and that will probably have an impact.

    I hope this helps. Let me know if you’re interested in where my thinking comes from and I can point to some resources.

    I’m sorry for the tough situation you’re in. Best of luck.