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Cake day: December 3rd, 2025

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  • That’s a minor sound when I do it if I understand correctly. Audible but light. I can flex the muscles in my jaw/tongue as one would to attempt to pop ears, but pushing out from the back of the mouth and pulling my jaw backwards. I think it slightly restricts blood flow and makes it turbulent past the ear. Sounds like pulsar tinnitus (probably not relatable) but constant as long as I hold it.






  • Is it wrong to want to choose my friends?

    No, it is fine and good. You get to pick friends, that’s the point. Obviously this has some fluctuation, but they should overall be a positive value in your life.

    How do you balance doing what makes you happy with maintaining friendships, especially if your happiness and your current friend group don’t line up?

    Do what you like and make friends who do that too. Your friends should be people you have fun hanging out with. If the activity is a prerequisite then that’s that.

    Any thoughts, advice, or personal experiences would be really helpful.

    I do rock climbing, met several fun people at the gym, we climb together now. Good friends. Also took a dance class, meet a couple friends there. I do what I’m interested in and those interests being friends and connections. You can always fall back on the interests/hobbies for activities.

    No reason to maintain a friendship simply because of the label/category of “friend” because that’s not really a meaningful relationship.