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Cake day: February 7th, 2025

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  • I down vote stuff for many reasons. In your case it was disagreeing with your view. This next reply I upvoted because I liked your nice response.

    I can see only having gay dating pool could screw that statistics by a lot. I admit I do not know a lot about gay community. While I know the (not sure how real) stereotype about way more common one night relationships. I still think this still varies a lot depending on whre you are searching.

    Homosexuals I know (in my environment) are all in a very long relationships. My gay neighbors have been married for 10+ years. My gay schoolmate has been in a relationship for a few years and I have no doubt they will eventually marry and live a very happy life.

    While I can imagine those percentage being lower in gay community I still believe they are quite significant. Maybe you just have to search in a different environment.


  • On average, only 14% of those in a couple say they are not very or not at all satisfied with their relationship with their spouse or partner, while 84% say they are somewhat or very satisfied.

    And this

    The failure rate for first marriage is roughly 48%, 60% for second and 70% for third marriages [source], but at the same time, in 2019 for every 1000 marriages, only 7.6 resulted in divorce, which is the lowest divorce rate in the past 50 years.

    So I would not say it is that rare to live happy married life. But it is not like everyone is getting this life. With a hard work I think it is totally possible and is not that rare at all… Although none of those studies give a direct answer on how many happy lifelong relationships there are. One can conclude somewhere between 30-40% of relationships are happy lifelong relationship. And even if this number is lower like 10-20% this is still a very significant number.

    When I talk about relationships with my sister she has similar view as you. She can almost never see a truly happy relationship. While I can see it everywhere

    It turned out our environments are drastically different. For example she met all of her partners at parties. This is not a general population. While I met my wife in school.

    I made most of my friends in school or at work or from being a neighbor (ie owning a house). Most of them are educated and with higher income. If I remember correctly those also have better statistics for relationship success. While my sisters friends are none of that.

    I believe it would be wise for you to check if your environment screwed your view too.



  • I do. 25M. For movies, lyrics, stories… Can be most casual things for most people. But I detected some special meaning and I have tears in my eyes. I for some reason got more and more emotional since I was 18. Not sure why though. I hope anyone has some kind of ideas.

    I find this strange since I do not consider myself very empatic. And I also consider word empathy cringe since it is often misused to demonize political opponents.



  • I already repaired my 3d printer and I recently learned to use Blender for more creative 3d designs. I created a model and painted it. I like how miniature painting affects my internal calmness. Oh and I will write another short story. I am also finaly making some progress on learning guitar.

    Not that I am any good in any of those things I do them because they are fun to do.

    I also have quite flexible job. I believe the most important thing one can do for their happiness is really working hard on your relationships.