For my mother we didn’t really have a funeral. The funeral home did the generic stuff and dressed her in just her own regular nice clothes and the family members who wanted to see her just went into a room she was in. It was like a day or two after she had died while we still had to do the paperwork and then we had her cremated. I don’t think funerals, especially open casket and the whole carrying the casket thing is really that common anymore