So you would be okay with being dumped the moment you lose your job or don’t make ‘enough’ money for the other person’s tastes? Happy even, for the other person?
That’s what dating is like for a man. You are only as good as your paycheck or how much you spend on the last date/vacation. You are seen as a failure as a male partner if you are not continually providing. Sounds like you haven’t had the experience of dating as a man.
It’s a basic functional reality of most relationships. Sort of like looks. Most people dump people when they stop being physically attracted to them or wanting to have sex with them.
yeah well dating is very gendered… but oftentimes people absolutely refuse to acknowledge it and project their weird ideals onto other folks.
fwiw i am in the same boat as you. every partner i had refused to be financially responsible. and a lot of them straight up lied about it too. as in I told them I was looking for someone who was financial stable, they said they were… and they were not and only revealed this to me months/years later. and I ended it and they saw me as this evil bad guy… lol
I am just way happier alone than I’d ever be having to support a second person on a single salary. To me that feels like a glorified form of prostitution. But a lot of men and women are seeking that kind of arrangement.
That’s what dating is like for a man. You are only as good as your paycheck or how much you spend on the last date/vacation. You are seen as a failure as a male partner if you are not continually providing. Sounds like you haven’t had the experience of dating as a man.
It’s a basic functional reality of most relationships. Sort of like looks. Most people dump people when they stop being physically attracted to them or wanting to have sex with them.
Thank you you get it
yeah well dating is very gendered… but oftentimes people absolutely refuse to acknowledge it and project their weird ideals onto other folks.
fwiw i am in the same boat as you. every partner i had refused to be financially responsible. and a lot of them straight up lied about it too. as in I told them I was looking for someone who was financial stable, they said they were… and they were not and only revealed this to me months/years later. and I ended it and they saw me as this evil bad guy… lol
I am just way happier alone than I’d ever be having to support a second person on a single salary. To me that feels like a glorified form of prostitution. But a lot of men and women are seeking that kind of arrangement.
Sorry to hear you’ve had that experience. You’re more than the value capitalism says you have.
Cheers.
I am, but that doesn’t mean other people don’t see me that way. and i have no control over that.
i do a lot of volunteer work, but a lot of my dates think it is stupid and dumb because it’s not about making money or spending it.