• dodgy_bagel@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    8 months ago

    I get what you’re saying, but often the age gap isn’tthe problem: the men are.

    When a 40 year old man dates a 20 year old, often times the man is an absolutely toxic child. That’s why the relationships are bad.

    If both people were actually decent then things are okay, but that ain’t the case.

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      8 months ago

      I agree that the way we socially condition and, more importantly, hold men accountable are the real issues, which only reinforces my point. If the problem is men rather than age gaps, why disparage age gaps and not male behaviors instead? It’s like trying to focus on getting the blood stain out of a carpet while somebody has an open wound on their arm and continues bleeding out; it’s focusing on the wrong part of what’s wrong in the scenario.