• Endorkend@kbin.social
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    9 months ago

    Every fracture, bruise and STABWOUND I’ve had as a 6ft1 230lbs dude, in my 45 years on this earth were caused by one 5ft2 woman.

    That 18 year relationship left me with serious PTSD, constant anxiety I’ll get a call she killed herself, constant anxiety she may seek contact again and severely aggravated my pre-existing dislike for any sort of physical contact.

    It took well over a year before I was able to even hug the woman that is now my wife.

    • SatanicNotMessianic@lemmy.ml
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      9 months ago

      Hey man, I’m really hoping you have been able to get someone to speak to about your situation as well as medication to help manage your symptoms. I did not take those options, and it has taken me years to recover.

      It sounds like you’re still carrying a lot of that weight, and I hope you can put it down.

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      9 months ago

      We are taught from a very young age to not hit people smaller and weaker than us, even in self defense. And it happens a lot more than people realize.

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      9 months ago

      Sounds like you were able to find a real keeper of a wife in her place, proud of ya

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      9 months ago

      Im so sorry yo hear this. Be aware that ither men can always help you! We are here united!!!

    • intensely_human@lemm.ee
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      9 months ago

      Have you tried any of the new MDMA-enhanced psychotherapy techniques for PTSD?

      Even when the waters have calmed down, and a person is functional again, the shit is still there. But the shit itself can be actually cleaned up, to make space for more of the good things.