• A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      No one does.

      They tell you to open up and talk about your emotions, to be vulnerable and they leave you cause you’re weak, and spread rumors about your sexuality (because straight men arent supposed to have feelings) when you do.

      You ask for help, and you get ridiculed and called weak and told endless stories about how hard real victims/women have it.

      Anything you do except suffer in silence is unacceptable.

      And just by the gods make sure you don’t make your silent suffering to noticeable to impact others, because god damn then the ridicule and the “well ackshually”-ing about other peoples suffering will really start.

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        You’re technically right. But the fundamental flaw in your logic is not obeying the #1 rule in everyone’s life (at least it should be) :

        Keep toxic people out of your life, no matter their sex. Women can be the same pieces of shit that men can be. The statistical quantification or prevalence by trend doesn’t matter. Keep. Them. Out. Period. Family, friend, coworkers, significant others? Whatever. OUT!

        And if you end up totally lonely by this? Well. Still better being totally lonely than being under the foot of an arsehole just not to be lonely.

        There are awesome people out there. You just got to weed out a legion of sand before finding a pearl. Or two.

        Wisdoms of an old, misanthropic, eremitic fart.

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          Gonna have to find me a whole new intelligent species if you don’t want to be surrounded by a society that does this.

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            You can’t fix the world, but you can at least influence who you personally interact with. Easier said than done, but any little incremental improvement still means today is better than yesterday.

            Hopefully the folks on here have been mostly good to you!

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        Yeah, being a man hasn’t changed over the years.

        Those who succumb to feminist bullshit aren’t rewarded; they’re chastised.

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          9 months ago

          Has nothing to do with feminism.

          Its this toxic idea of stoicism, that men arent supposed to be anything but strong and not feel anything but anger, thats the problem.

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            It actually has a lot to do with feminism.

            As soon as men start behaving like women, they start being less attractive to women.

            Women won’t tell you this, so you’ll have to figure it out yourself using your powers of observation.

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        Yep, the shitty thing is that it’s generally other men that are the problem when it comes to “less manly” things like getting abused by a woman. Since every man is “supposed” to be tough you’re generally thought of as weak if you admit to something like this. I say this as another guy.

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      There are shelters for men. You can find them for example here (this is for Canada): Men and Families Canada

      1-866-887-0015 for male sexual abuse survivors toll-free 24/7

      Menand Canada for further resources

      Heads-up Guys Canada especially for mental health issues

      This is a list based in Ontario with additional helplines and resources in Canada also for women, indigenous people, LGBTQ+ and other minorities.

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        There are shelters for men. You can find them for example here (this is for Canada): Men and Families Canada

        There’s a certain irony here, as Men and Families Canada was started by the Canadian Association For Equality (CAFE). CAFE who got their first real taste of gendered bullshit when they tried to do a series of talks on men’s issues at the University of Toronto c. 2012, starting with one about suicide in men. Angry feminist protests ensued.

        Ever seen the “Big Red” antifeminist meme? She’s a real person and she became a meme because of these protests, in which at one point she was basically shouting a Jezebel article at the crowd and calling anyone who tried to engage things like “fuckface”. She became the meme shorthand for “angry feminist” for a good while afterward as a consequence.

        EDIT: Gave the wrong year, I apologize. Corrected.

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          Well yeah, some feminists suck. That had little to do with their comment though.

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      9 months ago

      That’s kind of a hyperbole, there are resources and advocates for men in Canada.