So much content on YouTube are just commercials. Makeup tutorial? Infomercial for makeup. Game streaming? Commercial to buy said game. Painting lessons? You guessed it: commercials for art supplies and specific brands. Very, very little content isn’t sponsored and is the creator just shitposting.
Now, I happen to like some of these commercials that are also tutorials, product reviews, etc. but I sure as shit am not paying YouTube for the privilege.
Then you get the women who hate ethnic minorities, foreigners, sex-positivity, other religions that aren’t their own denomination, and LGBTQ+ people more than they hate sexism. They will put up with misogynistic bullshit if it means they get to be racist and homophobic.
There’s probably more of the former, though. Like you say a lot of them trick themselves into “being the exception,” often because their partner is nice to them specifically.