Happily married but from what I’ve encountered in the wild, I wouldn’t/couldn’t do anything under 28 or so. It’s a completely different worldview.
Not that worldview matters that much when having sex
Yeah, but that only lasts 90 seconds. What do you do for the rest of the day?
Cry.
Send her home? It’s not like you are forced to spend a whole day with a hookup?
Plot the downfall of the bourgeoisie
As I’ve gotten older, it’s not even just the worldview anymore, the body can look attractive but one look at the face and if the woman is young enough it’s an immediate turn-off.
Half your age plus seven.
Shit’s not hard, guys.
I don’t judge the age difference as long as they’re both adults. What two consenting adults do is up to them, it’s none of my business.
Oh, I judge, particularly the older person, but not in some moralistic way. But in a “if at 50 you can have a romantic or sexual relationship, even temporarily, with an 18-year-old, I have some unflattering views of you.”
It depends on the relative power imbalance at this point. If a 20 year old is out at bars going home with 50 year old dudes, then slay queen. If it’s 20 year old secretary with 50 year old boss, then there’s a much higher chance that the situation is fucked, though still not 100% I suppose.
Hey is that Oyasumi Punpun?
I couldn’t remember the name and I am amused that the search string “sad bird manga” worked.
Unless you’re 20.
Some US state lawmakers would disagree
If I recall correctly, over here once the person reaches the age of consent (16) it’s considered legally acceptable if the different is + 4 years, meaning a 20 years old couldn’t be accused of being a pedo if they were going out with a consenting 16 years old…
They just need to remember to not be idiots and not to share pictures…
A relationship between a 20 yo and a 17 yo isn’t unethical. It’s not like we magically become more mature once we turn 18.
depends what your looking for
i like 1999 Dodge Durango type women
Solid. Rusty. Burning oil.
I can see it.
Beat up undercarriage.
You did age divided by 2, TIMES seven. That… dramatically changes things.
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What on earth is going on with that picture? Apparently the main source is this picture here.
Who processed it and why?
Looks like someone replaced their faces with Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt
That makes some kind of sense. Internet logic perhaps.
Ohhh hmmmmmmmmm
Before it was boring. Now i kinda wanna fap
Nah on tinder it’s 18 to 118 for me. Keep it legal, don’t hurt anybody, have fun.
don’t hurt anybody
Gonna have to be real careful in your upper range then… Not judging, just warning 😁
Make sure the hip has already been replaced.
Because once you reach a certain age, the hips do lie
My 120 year old grandma is disappointed.
Divorced? Who the hell can even afford to get married anymore…
That’s one way to lower the divorce rate.
In my experience, it doesn’t matter what you set your age or distance range to in Tinder, because you’re going to get people 10 years older or younger and a hundred miles farther away than you specify anyway.
You mean 18-99? Haven’t used tinder in ~7 years or so, but I believe there was an upper limit. Found out by trial and error that apparently some women enter their year of birth instead of their age, when I matched with someone who was allegedly 97 years old.
Why are we infantilizing adults? Interpersonal relationships are complex and nuanced; we can acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships without insulting the autonomy and choices of those involved. These neo-puritanical bullshit tendencies creeping in on the left needs to stop; it’s a trojan horse for the next generation of conservatives. Reject non-nuanced conservative-bate thinking.
Because while it may result in a stable, positive, loving relationship (or just mutually great, harmless sex that’s what they’re after), it’s a strong predictor when people are actively seeking a relationship with that kind of gap. Think about the likely reasons someone would seek that kind of thing, and the likely outcomes. I think it’s reasonable to look at this sort of thing with suspicion, but not to immediately dust off the pitchforks and light the torches.
Not all middle-aged single men distributing candy from the back of their windows van are paedophiles, but it’s both reasonable and responsible to look at what they’re doing with suspicion.
It’s interesting you’d bring politics into this when conservatives seem so wrapped up in protecting child brides, child beauty pageants, fetishise youth, and appear to be massively over-represented represented in paedophilia stats.
If you thought I was defending conservatives, you’re wrong. There’s nuance to this; the topic is sexual dynamics but the purpose is dominance. This is a conservative kind of principle because it’s about limiting autonomy of consenting adults, enforcing social morals, and boogyman logic. We should be embracing and striving for a better, freer, more autonomous world, where everyone, women included, are empowered rather than limited, not just settling for a slightly preferable version of the patriarchy.
Which means embracing a nuanced world. Which is why I said acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships; we don’t have to be blind to real world dangers, but that we shouldn’t let fear of those dangers drive us into blind ignorance again or else we’re just repeating the same cycle. Hence the trojan horse. We get better when we accept difficult concepts rather than accept simplified extractions for the masses.
edit: just in case my position is somehow still unclear, yes I’m using conservative as effectively synonymous with “bad” here. I’ll consider caring when they consider better conduct and positions.
I dunno. Speaking as a male, the reason I see older men seeking far younger women is that it’s easy to seem like the smartest guy in the room when you’re also the oldest guy in the room. You can project an air of worldliness that makes you seem smarter and wiser than you really are. You can get younger women, legal women, fawning over you because they’re young and haven’t really experienced enough of life and people to be wise to the bullshit. They avoid women around their own age because they’ve been around, they know all the tricks.
Yeah, which falls under the risks I mentioned not to be ignorant to.
But also, sometimes you’re a 23 year old who gets put on assignment at work with a 31 year old coworker and are surprised how well you hit it off.
My point wasn’t “yay age gap relationships!,” it was to evaluate the world around you with the necessary nuanced rather than reductively.
I don’t understand what you are arguing about it than. The post doesn’t say we should vote for age gaps in relationships to be banned. Supposedly you think it’s good to talk about the downsides of these relationships, but here you are, calling it a “conservative Trojan horse”. It seems like you actually do not want people to criticise it.
Found the older dude dating a 19 year old.
I get what you’re saying, but often the age gap isn’tthe problem: the men are.
When a 40 year old man dates a 20 year old, often times the man is an absolutely toxic child. That’s why the relationships are bad.
If both people were actually decent then things are okay, but that ain’t the case.
I agree that the way we socially condition and, more importantly, hold men accountable are the real issues, which only reinforces my point. If the problem is men rather than age gaps, why disparage age gaps and not male behaviors instead? It’s like trying to focus on getting the blood stain out of a carpet while somebody has an open wound on their arm and continues bleeding out; it’s focusing on the wrong part of what’s wrong in the scenario.
Sometimes women want a real man with real skills, not a 25-year-old boy living with his parents. Young healthy women are attractive. Win-win.
No. I tried. They’re 40 year old man children who are marginally better at hiding it, except these daughter fuckers won’t grow out of it.
It takes a special kind of toad to seek out a much younger spouse.
How do people deal with getting older when the hottest girls are out of your age range.
I was hoping as I get older women I’m most attracted to would get older. Seems my standards are just lowering but a 20 year is still banging.
Is that even a serious question? It’s literally biology. Humans are in their prime between like 18 and 24 years old (just made that range up so could be +/- few years but likely close). Same concept as why a fucking tomato will look worse 4 days after you bring it home from the store. We are organic beings. Organic materials degrade. Just accept it ;-). There is more to a relationship than looks.
You may wanna bang a 20 year old when you’re 40, but would you want to date/marry a 20 year old? I certainly fucking wouldn’t.
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Well it may seem outlandish, but this is the age range that guys truly think about. At least it’s honest. I know everyone will say “I don’t,” well done for putting forth the effort to maintain a social mask of being above it all - but you’re not. In the west, we associate youth with beauty and desirability, so it’s no wonder men go after school girls (or younger). Shame, shame on them for being so human! The rest of us are above this sort of behavior!
I mean yeah you can think young girls are beautiful while also recognizing that for several reasons, dating them is a bad idea. You’re trying to completely normalize thinking only with your dick and claiming anyone who doesn’t do that is a snob. Weird.
Luckily tinder is only for finding committed relationships so nobody would ever have ANY REASON to do this.
Swipe left, swipe right, fuck your neighbors daughter, whatever as long as it’s consensual. It is nobody else’s business.
Actually what I’m trying to show is that almost all men think with their dick and all men have some attraction to teens. That’s just human nature, we try hard to pretend we DON’T have those feelings, because we’re taught it’s evil and wrong, but it’s really just normal. Not to say you should act on those feelings, I’m just saying that it’s normal to have the feelings.
Explain what you mean by school.
Hoping they mean college
They mean the only kind of college they recognize as a legitimate institute of higher learning: clown college.
They’re a 9th generation legacy, see…
I mean, it’s the age range popular media tells men they should be thinking about.
The problem is we’re too enured with maintaining a status quo that many men never decide to think differently.
I don’t think there needs to be anything telling men to go for the age range of 19-54
You and I must be listening to different “popular” media then: https://youtu.be/fIIon1S1Das?si=6Em5XMUIGQopoe-j
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I like that reply. Best so far!
